Katie’s Korner - Mov'n' On -
God & Anger
I recall a visiting nun while in rehab after my auto accident.
She looked at me with eyes of pity and said, “You know,
this is God’s work. This is God’s plan for you.” I said
nothing but my mind went off and running. Personally,
I don’t think God is that mean. I don’t think God sits around
pointing a finger saying “I give YOU cancer and YOU won’t
be able to breathe on your own!” Instead, I think
disabilities and diseases, as well as other of life’s
challenges, are man made.
People like to blame someone or something when
something bad happens. They soon become a victim and
crave pity from others. And these people are no fun to be
around. I use the term “energy vampires” when describing
these folks. They are like ticks that latch onto a blood
source and suck till the other is dry. Relationships with
people who live this way, really wear me out. But I have
now learned to shield myself from people who are takers
and not givers. As I approach my 40’s I don’t have time
and resources to waste.
Back to God; My God didn’t make my life harder, but
instead helps me through it. I talk to God, sometimes
internally while relaxing with my eyes closed or externally
when I screaming out loud asking God, “Why me?”
Anger is everywhere. I see it when an adult looses their
cool and yells at or hits a child. I see it when someone
looses a game. I see it when someone has something that
another doesn’t. I just wish life was fair. But it isn’t. And it
is what we do with our anger and our attitude that affects
Bob Frissell who wrote “You Are a Spiritual Being Having a
Human Experience” hits the nail on the head with his
analogy; “The way that intention translates into action is
through attitude. In aeronautics, the attitude of the airplane’
s wing is the tilt or angle which makes the plane fly upward
or downward. With a sharply angled upward attitude, the
plane soars towards the heavens. With a sharply angled
downward attitude, the plane heads down to the ground.” A
positive attitude costs nothing but it is worth millions.
Find a way to constructively deal with your anger and the
attitude it produces. I was raised on what I call the “blow
and go” theory. My father would often yell and scream at
the top of his lungs and go away. Then he would come
back and act like nothing happened. No discussion. No
apologies. Nothing! My response was to then cry and my
father’s response to that was, “Quit crying or I’ll give you
something to cry about!” Well that made me even more
angry and unable to deal with many of my life’s challenges.
When I started seeing my current therapist Susan in 1989,
I learned that I can’t resolve my issues with the blow and
go theory. Instead, I’m all for crying and talking things
through or punching a pillow to blow off steam. And I have
to tell you, sharing my thoughts with you, the readers of
this newsletter is a coping mechanism as well. If sharing
my thoughts and experiences helps just one person, I’ve
done my job.
It’s OK to get angry and even angry at God. It’s part of the
condition of being a human being, living in the third
dimension. But the good news is that you’re not the only
person on this planet. So reach out to others. In doing so
we help ourselves!
Katie Rodriguez Banister works with audiences to embrace
diversity through motivational speaking and disability
education. You can reach her at 314-821-7011 or at
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